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About Tyler Orr, LPC/MHSP
Challenges present themselves on a daily basis, each diverse and varying in complexity. It seems only fitting these obstacles would so strongly influence the lives of diverse, complex individuals—like you. It can often feel like a struggle just to remain content for extended periods of time with so many tough decisions, stressful circumstances, daily annoyances, and past hurts. If you’re like most, you manage to get by, usually requiring very little help from outside yourself, until a troubling event or breaking point occurs, leading you to seek the help of a trained therapist.
Tyler Orr is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC/MHSP) and National Certified Counselor (NCC) dedicated to offering holistic and experiential assistance that exceeds the boundaries of traditional talk therapy. He offers an interactive, here-and-now, body-centered approach to counseling that integrates mindfulness, nonduality, somatic and attachment focused EMDR, and Somatic Experiencing® techniques. Tyler specializes in working with chronic pain, early childhood trauma, and religious abuse. He is the owner of the Chattanooga Center for Mind-Body Therapy in Chattanooga, Tennessee, the co-owner of the Insight Pain Institute, and an EMDRIA approved consultant and trainer in training with the Personal Transformation Institute. Click here for information on how to make an appointment.
Mindfulness is a hot topic these days. Chances are you are reading this because you’ve heard something in the past about how the present is the place to be (as if you could ever be anywhere else). Many people seem to think that being in the moment requires attending the right retreat, doing the right meditation, finding the right teacher, wearing the right clothes, or reading the right book. In an attempt to monetize the moment, people have marketed mindfulness into something that it’s not, something much more complicated than it needs to be.
If I’ve learned anything from years of mindfully observing my inner experience and coaching others to do the same, it’s this: you can’t change a thought or feeling the same way you change a flat tire. You can’t replace an unwanted emotion with a more desired one. If this were true, no negative feeling would last longer than a few seconds, because you would undoubtedly swap pain for pleasure.
I used to know a “computer guy”. I use quotations because it turned out this guy was not a real computer guy. He was more of a guy who messed with computers. Truth is he was pretty awful at his job, something I learned the hard way.
I vividly remember one of my first attempts at meditation. I was sitting on my bedroom floor, doing my best to empty my mind of all thought. Suddenly, an image of a Loch Ness Monster came to mind. I saw Nessie in a swimming pool, lounging comfortably on a brightly colored inflatable raft. Then, from the right side of my mind, another Loch Ness Monster jumped in the pool, making a big splash, knocking the first monster off of his float.
Word of warning: When your significant other is upset, DON’T TRY TO FIX ANYTHING! This cautionary tale is written from my own personal experience, as I wasted several years of my marriage attempting to soothe my wife with solutions. I’m here to say it does not work. Don’t do it!
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
Say what you want about Paul, but he brought his A game when he wrote this passage.
“I feel out of control!”
As a counselor, I hear this phrase all the time. It’s a powerful expression. It’s clear, to the point, and often times the most heartfelt way of expressing how you feel when circumstances appear unstable. We’ve all felt this way and uttered these very words at one time or another. It’s undeniable that all of this seems to make perfect sense, but I’m here to challenge the typical notion of control. The phrase “I feel out of control” may appear accurate, but often times it’s actually not.
Imagine you and I are scientists studying a band of gorillas deep in the jungle. As good scientists, we vow not to intervene or interfere with the animals. We also understand the need to put aside personal beliefs and biases about how gorillas ought to behave, as such presumptions would easily spoil our research. Our task is simply to observe the gorillas—nothing more, nothing less.
So, I heard the TV show Hoarders was canceled. What a shame. I actually liked watching it. I felt it did an excellent job highlighting the lives of those suffering from the debilitating disorder know as hoarding—the excessive collecting of items, and the inability to discard them. I know people like this. In fact, I know several people who display hoarding traits, but not in the way you might imagine. For the sake of this blog, I’d like to combine all the hoarders I know into one imaginary person. Let’s call him "Buddy".
In 1962, two scientists, Stanley Schachter and Jerry Singer, at Columbia University did an experiment that would be illegal today. It would be illegal because the researchers deceived the participants. In the study, volunteers were told that they were receiving vitamin shots to see if it would affect their eyesight, but the researchers had other plans. Instead of giving the participants vitamins, they really gave them shots of adrenaline.